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One Lunch Here Will Make You Lose Weight. One Will Make You Fat. Which One Is For You?

(The author is a psychotherapist who lost 140 lbs. when he developed his methods, and he’s kept it off for over 30 years. Read about his method in his book at the right, or listen to his audiobook, free sample provided here.)

whopper combo

This is a Whopper with fries and a regular Coke. It’s a whopping 1440 calories. This is the kind of thing I used to have for lunch.


This is a Whopper Jr. and a Diet Coke. It’s only 300 calories. This is what I’ll have for lunch at least once a week now. It doesn’t look too much different from the 1440 calorie one, does it? The food companies try to get us to buy and eat as much as possible. Is there any question why we are having an obesity epidemic when we aren’t paying attention?

Before I discovered the solution to my weight problem and permanently lost 140 pounds, I’d go on diets and try to eat in a way I didn’t enjoy. I thought that to lose weight I’d have to give up eating what I liked. It wasn’t true and the dieting never worked. I’d soon quit and go back to eating what I liked.

Then I did the work to learn how to eat what I liked in a way to lose weight and keep it off. It was a lot of work at first, but now its easy.

Read everything here to learn more, and to get trained in my method, contact one of my therapists or get my book, eBook, or audiobook (listen to the free sample audio here).

Jumping Jacks? Are You Nuts?

A serious teacher

Every year at this time, I publish columns to help people get control of their weight, and I also peruse what others are writing on the issue. This year, I read a few columns telling overweight people to exercise with jumping jacks. One said to “start with something easy, like jumping jacks”. Jumping jacks??!! I almost blew my coffee out my nose. Jumping jacks? Is this guy crazy? He has probably never been obese and probably has never had an obese person he has said this to.

As a formerly obese person, I can tell you that jumping jacks are a very bad idea for an obese person. Not only will it hurt, but you are liable to do damage. In fact, the number one rule for obese people and exercise is to take it easy, go slowly, and don’t overdo it. Use the old show-business principle. Only do so much, and leave ’em wanting more. If you get to the point where you think you’ve done enough, you’ve probably done too much. The most intense thing you should do at first is walking. Jumping jacks are the worst idea I’ve ever heard of.
I’m a behavior therapist who discovered how to succeed with permanent weight loss. After 25 years of diet and exercise failure, I finally “got it”, lost 140 pounds and I’ve kept it off for 30 years. I went on to teach others, and I wrote a successful book about it, now an audiobook.

In my behavioral approach, we focus on our behavior rather than our weight or our body. Instead of just trying to use “will power”, we use behavioral science to program in the behavior and habits that will create the results we want and program out (extinguish) the behavior that made us overweight. One of the primary mechanisms in behaviorism is conditioning, applying reward to the behavior we want to build, and unpleasant aversives (called “punishment” in the science) to the behavior we want to kill.

So, when we engaged in punishing exercise, we were training ourselves to hate and avoid the exercise that would help us control out weight! Those people saying we should be in pain were all wrong! If you want to create an exercise habit, don’t do anything that hurts, physically or emotionally.

Instead of trying to be tough and making ourselves do something unpleasant, we need to find things that feel good and burn calories at the same time. So, going to the gym surrounded by gawking strangers is out. Doing things that physically hurt is out. You need to be extra sensitive or attuned to your needs and realize that something as simple as feeling embarrassed or having uncomfortable walking shoes is a punishment. You need to find ways to burn calories that are more fun than that and feel good. I was lucky to have a private pool when I started my successful weight loss, and started getting active just by playing in the pool with the kids. I was in such bad shape, I couldn’t even swim a lap. But treading water got me started. It was fun and felt good. Soon I was swimming, and then walking in the cool mornings, but only short strolls at first.

So, forget jumping jacks and the people who tell you to start with them. Read the rest of my work to learn more about my behavioral approach for permanent weight loss. This could be the year you solve your weight problem.